Personal Confession & a 3 minute video on "The Gift"

I have a confession to make. For those of you who know me this will come as no surprise. I am a people pleaser and love the fact that people need me (Whew! I'm glad I got that off my chest.) It bothers me that I disappoint people. I like people to like me. I take it personally if you don't like me. Besides, I'm a great guy, why would you not like me? Like Sally Field gushed in her acceptance speech for her role in 'Places of the Heart', "I can't deny the fact you like me, right now, you like me!" Yep, that's me.

I like the fact people need me. One of the likely reasons for my counseling, and now working with executives and companies is the fact people find what I share with them invaluable. What a great addiction! It's a natural high! It gets even worse when people compliment me on what I have shared with them.

So if you suffer like me, may I recommend a few truths on both conditions:

  1. You can't please everyone (not rocket science). So you have to make a decision about whom you will please. May I suggest those to whom you are closest? Everyone else will have to get over it.

  2. When people are disappointed in me, I forget about all the positives I have to offer others and focus in on this one person. I lose perspective.

  3.  I want people to like me but if they don't, that's really okay, I don't like everyone I meet either (sorry). That's why each of us were made differently. What a boring place this world would be if we were all the same.

  4. We are all in a different season, both as individuals as well as companies. For this very reason, what I have to offer as well as who I am might not be where the other person/company is right now. There is an old song that came from a verse in the Bible that says, "There is a time for everything and a season for every activity under heaven." Sometimes what I offer is helpful for the season a person or company might be in. Sometimes it's not.

There you go. Your thoughts?

Finally, here is a video from Stacey Kramer who offers a moving, personal 3 minute video that shows how an unwanted experience can turn out to be a priceless gift.

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Posted on Mon, October 18, 2010 by Ron Beasley filed under

3 comments (Add your own)

1. Bonki wrote:
Wow, Ron. Maybe we're more alike than I thought. ;)
I try often to call to mind Galatians 1:10 "am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God?...if I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ."

Also, glad I took the 3 minutes to watch "The Gift", that was profound!

Mon, October 18, 2010 @ 8:12 PM

2. Debra wrote:
The older I get the less I care about pleasing people because I have figured out I can't please everyone; it's true. However, I have to remember even though I don't care about trying to please everyone there can be a fine line between not caring about pleasing people and just not caring. I hope I don't get to the point of just not caring.

Tue, October 19, 2010 @ 9:44 AM

3. Kelly North wrote:
I really don’t want people to need me, I have enough needy people in my life. I want people to like me and I need to do better at understanding that is not always going to happen.

Thu, October 21, 2010 @ 11:59 AM

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Personal Confession & a 3 minute video on "The Gift"